Being a wife is hard, and I am definitely not very good at it! But, when I’m about to say something hurtful to my husband, I’ve started asking myself a few questions, and it’s definitely helping to promote a little bit of peace in our house. Here’s how.

1. What’s the worst that could happen? Whenever I want to give direction or unsolicited advice to my husband, I try to picture the worst-case scenario if I keep my fat mouth shut. Usually, it’s nothing. Like, the sink isn’t cleaned the way I like it, or the kids wear an outfit I don’t love. If it’s not that big of a deal, let it go.

2. Can it wait until later? This one is huge! Sometimes, what I want to say is truly important. But catching myself and not saying it in the moment not only keeps the peace but also makes my husband more likely to receive it. Even if it’s just 5 minutes, waiting can make all the difference.

3. Can I leave the room? I laugh as I type this because this is totally my saving grace! And, it can be applied in any circumstance where you’re about to say something you regret. Ready? Go to the bathroom! It separates you from the situation, and if you think about it, everyone has to go to the bathroom so no one thinks anything of it. I do this all the time when I’m in stressful situations and I don’t want to say something I’ll regret. Remove yourself for a couple minutes and then come back refreshed.

How do you keep peace in your marriage? Share your thoughts in the comments section below.